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5:16pm
sonia,
who does my hair, is doing george clinton's hair tonight :)
she has done his hair before many times.
she has such a great life :)
5:05pm
ok, i slept for 3 hours. i think i can make it now til the end of this day.
something i wrote in reponse to something someone wrote in the feminist lj community:
(original thread here;
http://www.livejournal.com/community/feminist/730316.html)
ok, after much deliberation, i will bite.
a fetus is a part of a woman's body as it is attached to her body and lives off of it. we could argue that point til we are blue in the face.
you wrote:
"As I see it, nine months of inconvenience is nothing when compared to
the possibility of killing someone."
read this and then get back to me
about the "inconvenience" of pregnancy... and what about the possibility
of the mother dying?
what does that count for?:
http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/004.htm
"Below is a partial list of the physical effects and risks of pregnancy.
This list does not include the many non-physical effects and risks a woman
faces in reproducing, such as the economic investment of work interruptions
from pregnancy and breastfeeding, or time lost from career and other opportunity
costs involved in pregnancy and later child rearing (mothers comprise 90+%
of primary parents), or the emotional trauma of problem pregnancies, or the
numerous economic and lifestyle repercussions pregnancy and motherhood will
have on the remainder of a mother's life."
http://www.infoforhealth.org/pr/m12/m12chap2_2.shtml
"While the number of maternal deaths is often estimated at 500,000 per
year, the true number may be even larger"
http://www.safemotherhood.org/facts_and_figures/maternal_mortality.htm
"In many developing countries, complications of pregnancy and childbirth
are the leading causes of death among women of reproductive age. More than
one woman dies every minute from such causes; 585,000 women die every year."
http://www.newint.org/issue303/facts.html
"Giving birth is a dangerous business. One woman dies every minute from
causes related to pregnancy and childbirth.
Thousands more suffer temporary or permanent disabilities"
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for the record i am for legalizing prostitution.
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you wrote:
"it's hard to argue that you should be able to prosecute a man for kicking
his pregnant wife in the stomach, causing her to miscarry, when it's perfectly
legal for her to walk to the clinic and have an abortion (we're talking specifically
about charges dealing with the loss of the child, here, not the assault, battery,
what have you)."
it's all about intent.
if she didn't intend to keep the child and was about to get an abortion, then
there is less of an argument.
if she intended to have the child then that IS a loss and one could prosecute.
you wrote:
"Everyone makes noise about being "pro-choice," but what they really mean is "keep abortion legal."
yes, you are right. that IS what they mean.
you wrote:
"Abortion may be legal, but women still do not have access to affordable
healthcare during pregnancy, affordable healthcare after pregnancy for themselves
and their children, affordable day care, adequate leavetime during and after
pregnancy for themselves and their spouses or partners"
yes, and all things women do not have access to mean there is even more risk to the mother dying and many other things:
http://www.who.int/archives/whday/en/pages1998/whd98_05.html
"Maternal risk is defined as the probability of dying or experiencing
serious injury as the result of pregnancy or childbirth.1 All pregnant women,
by virtue of their pregnant status, face some level of maternal risk. Data
suggest that around 40% of all pregnant women have some complication. About
15% of pregnant women need obstetric care to manage complications which are
potentially life-threatening to mother or infant. Such complications are often
sudden in onset and unpredictable"
and if we do not keep abortion legal
this will grow and even more women will die:
Unsafe abortions :
"There are an estimated 20 million unsafe abortions each year and more
than 70,000 abortion-related deaths, most of them in the Majority World. An
unknown but much larger number suffer infection, injury and trauma. Where
abortion is illegal, the number of women resorting to unsafe abortion increases
- and so does the danger of them dying or being injured."
you wrote:
"To make this really interesting, let's pull cases of pregnancy by rape
or incest completely off the table."
since One out of every six American
women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime,
i don't think we can afford pull those cases.
and frankly, until we can abolish rape i wouldn't even BEGIN to think about making abortion illegal.
http://www.now.org/issues/violence/043003pregnant.html
In 2002, there were 247,730 victims of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault.
[2002 National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS)]
Of these approximately 248,000 victims, about 87,000 were victims of completed
rape, 70,000 were victims of attempted rape, and 91,000 were victims of sexual
assault. [NCVS 2002]
oh, and did you know that the #1 cause of death to pregnant women is murder?
http://www.now.org/issues/violence/043003pregnant.html
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12:45pm
ate 2 bananas.
i am sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepyyyyyyy.
i'm listening to last night's coast to coast.
12:14pm
ok, my mom is not mad at me so that
makes me feel better.
and my mom is still going to go anyway and just talk to her and see if this
therapist has a plan or something and then she'll get back to me on that.
i'm sure my mom will feed the therapist more bullshit but at least i don't
have to be there to witness it.
i can't decide if i should make coffee or go to sleep for 2 hours or so.
now i am leaning towards sleep.
10:50pm
maybe i will just try to stay up all day and then go to sleep super early to get myself off this whack schedule.
10:41am
i'm still up. i guess i will just
go to sleep for a few hours or something.
i definitely can't sleep all the way til 7pm. that would be horrible.
i probably should just try to stay up all day and then go to bed early.
but i don't know if i could stand that.
there seems to be a lot more nutso
type people around today so perhaps it is good i am staying home.
i can't wait until jason is home from work. i need lots of hugs.
9:42am
i feel kind of guilty for doing this,
but i emailed my mom and told her that i feel too sick to go to that therapist
with her today. i just cannot deal with it! especially if all we are going
to be saying to the therapist is that we don't like her style and won't be
seeing her anymore. i just don't have the energy to talk about any of that
if i am going to just have to rehash it all again for a different therapist.
i have seriously limited energy for this...and i'd have to take a cab there
and back, too. i am not going to subject myself to a sheer living hell for
no reason. i can't fucking deal with it. i just can't. i wish i didn't feel
so horribly guilty about it, tho. i guess i just don't want to let my mom
down or bum her out at all. i can't stand it when she is sad or when she is
disapointed or mad at me. god. i hate this feeling.
am i bad? i feel awful also because i am not the one paying for it.
but arrrghhhhh, i can't just go there and be tortured again....and for nothing!
i'll pay her back for this missed session or something...
i haven't even gone to bed yet.
i've been up all night being nervous about this.
i'm exhausted. i feel jittery and exhausted.
my sanity can't be worth less than the money lost on that session...
i don't know. i still feel horrible about it. but probably not as horrible as i would feel going there on zero sleep and dealing with cabs and then subjecting myself to pointless torture so that i can spend the rest of the day even more exhausted and completely drained.
i'm going to go crawl under the covers now and hide with my puppies.