anagram 05.09.99
I went 2 my mom's
for mother's day and jason went 2 his mom's. my mom just bought a new house
kind of in the country and I hadn't seen it yet. it looks really boring from
the outside, but inside it was truly amazing. everything was at interesting
angles. huge windows, TONS of light. very peaceful. the nicest house my mom
has ever owned! I can't wait until someday I can afford a house. what ideally
like is to buy some land and jason and I would eac have our own house, connected
by a skyway
because I really want 2 be able 2 decorate my house in any
way I want without worrying if anyone likes it or not. I can see that that would
be totally feasible. it would still be living together
it would just be
doubly cool.
I've been reading neuromancer lately. I still don't read a ton at a time because
I haven't gotten my brain back 2 being trained 2 think that way. but I'm really
glad 2 be back doing some reading. thing is, always do it when I'm tired, so
I read about 10 pages, then I fall aseep.
I'm also trying 2 pay attention 2 how it was written, so I can understand more
how I would like 2 write. william gibson describes things in great detail.
so anyway, yesterday, at my mom's , she made a 23 pound turkey and stuffing
and cranberries and all that, and it was so yummy. I tried 2 tell my mom about
the web page that charity found on how 2 cook dog, but I don't think she was
paying attention much. I put some anapix and campix on some floppies for her
and tried 2 show her how 2 look at them, but she seemed kind of distant about
it. but basically we got along better than we have in quite awhile. steve, her
husband, was pretty distant from me but maybe he was just stressed or something.
and my mom and I talked about why I quit school and how I ended up with so many
abusive boyfriends and blah blah. I keep telling her the reason why, but I don't
think she really wants 2 know why. and I say the reason why is because my adopted
brother was so abusive 2 the whole family and we had 2 stick with him no matter
what and do the unconditional love thing..that I learned that I thought u had
2 stick by someone u loved no matter how awful they were.
but I told my mom I wasn't mad at her or anything about it. it was just the
best she knew how 2 do at that time.
but I learned some very disturbing news about my brother that has me very worried.
my brother is black and lives in a small white town, and he is on disability
because he has fetal alcohol syndrome. well, I thought that because everyone
knew my brother they had accepted him. I never saw anything really racist happen
2 him while I was ever around so I thought it was cool. (except for when we
first got him we had to tell the town we lived in that his hair was NOT made
out of WOOL and he did NOT like watermelon just because he was black!)
but I found out that there are some hell's angel's in his town that call him
a nigger and try 2 run him over. I also found out that there are some kkk in
that area who have burned crosses in people's lawns. and also people stare at
him wherever he goes and think he is going 2 steal stuff. and the cops come
knocking at his door when anything goes wrong in the town. like for instance,
somebody stole some wood from somebody and the cops came knocking on my brother's
door and he said "what would I want with wood? I don't have a fireplace!
and I'm not building anything!" so my brother is really screwed up from
all of this and has paranoia and most likely agoraphobia. god, I feel so fucking
awful. I guess my mom found him a place 2 live in the city and had it all set
up 4 him but my brother is too scared of change to leave this town. I mean,
my brother hates 2 even leave his house..i can understand why! so I told my
mom to still keep trying 2 persuade my brother to leave there, because now I
really fear for his safety and his life. I don't keep in contact with my brother
'cause he was such a shit to me and we have nothing in common. but I guess he
talks about me all the time and is pretty sorry for what he did. so perhaps
I'll write him a letter of support.
I'm just an awful procrastinator at any communication that isn't computer related.
I'm thinking perhaps it'd be a cool thing for my brother 2 get a computer since
it seems like the perfect social tool for people who really don't want people
in their actual personal space ( like me) but still like 2 communicate.
so if ever I get some xtra $, I'm gonna get my brother a computer, I swear.
then he can learn so much and go so many places and even get a support system
going and maybe learn SOMETHING about his heritage, which he seems to care less
about..which I guess I can understand. he has lived among poor to lower middle
class white rural people all his life that he is one, but they still don't accept
him as one of them. it's so tragic. and my brother DEARLY loves animals more
than ANYTHING, but he is insanely allergic to things with fur. so he has fish,
turtles and a couple gerbils.
I figure out a a bit ago that he's NOT stupid, because he has a wicked sense
of humour that I didn't realize he had..and u can't be extremely funny unless
your smart, imo 'cause it takes great perception to see behind stuff to joke
about it.
I know that when he was little he was extremely clairvoyant. I would hold up
a card for him to guess what it was, and he would get it right 100% of the time.
NOBODY believes me, of course. I'd tell mom, and she just say that SOMEHOW he
could see the card and was cheating but I KNOW he was not.
so imagine being THAT sensitive in a racist community and having learning disabilities
on top of that.
fucking hell is what I call it. the poor guy.
he'll be 30 years old soon. that is so bizarre 2 me, 'cause I still see him
as about 12 years old watching "dukes of hazzard"
ok, that's it 4 now
gonna try 2 get something done today maybe..dunno what
though.
jason is at his first day of work. it's almost 3:30 now, I don't know when he
gets home, but I'll be very interested 2 see how it went with him! the house
feels strange without him here